Yesterday I called a good friend to ask for help: I had been going back and forth all day, between my head and my ‘being’. My head said: “you need to clean, you need to buy food, you need to work out”. My being said: “everything is OK. It is clean, there is food, you can do what you choose".
For the record: my place is always pretty clean, I rarely run out of food and I am in fairly good shape.
Let’s call my head the ‘machine’. So I called Peter up, saying: My machine is running me. I don’t want to be run by it. It drives me crazy….
Now, Peter is about 20 years younger than I am and he is a coach as well. He also understands the ‘machine’ talk and his remark to me was simple: “sounds like you are making your machine wrong. This creates a new layer of suffering”.
WHAM!
Peter remarks are so profound that I almost see a flash in the sky when he makes them.
He gave me the gift of understanding that making myself wrong creates suffering. Making a situation wrong creates suffering. Making people wrong creates suffering. I knew that and I had heard if before. But now I GET it.
It is what it is. You can’t change it, BE with it. And then decide, what you want to do with it. Clean or not clean the house. Don’t suffer and don’t make it wrong.
Thank you Peter!
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